A friend once told me dating is a numbers game. Like myself, he was divorced. And we had both signed up for dating services several years ago.
We took different approaches to dating. My friend took a more conventional approach and joined a paid service, whereas I started using OKCupid.
Over the last few years I've used OKC to read hundreds-upon-hundreds of online dating profiles, surrendered dozens of hours chatting and seized the opportunity to go on some thrilling dates (and some chilling ones too).
To improve my chances I read research articles about exactly what to say in a first message – how words like “zombie” and “pretty” improve response rates from women. But what follows is nothing like that.